Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Healthy is as healthy does

Seeing as no one seemed to like last night's brilliance, here's some nice little farbrengen shtuff to keep you occupied.

Rabbi Chayim Friedman Farbrenged earlier this evening. Shocked by the lack of titles? I told you I was going to make this brief. When a surgeon prepares to do surgery, he (or she, for that matter) prepares himself extensively. He cuts his fingernails, and blunts, them. Then he washed his hands to the elbow, and then puts on latex-free gloves. The janitorial staff, meanwhile, has been working hard to ensure that the operating room is completely sterile, that not a single germ should be left standing. What happens then? The patient is wheeled in, the doctor takes out a knife, and boom! There's blood everywhere. What was the point of all that preparation? Obviously, it was to ensure that there's be no infection, that the patient shouldn't be damaged. Even though it may seem like he's being hurt by the doctor, the whole point is to help, and it would be terrible for anything to go wrong.

So too a person who comes to criticize his friend; he has to make sure that his motives are pure, and that his words are measured. He must keep in mind what he is doing, and what his goals are. The point is not to cut open, though that may have to be done; rather, the point is to heal.
After Rabbi Friedman said this I wandered on over and made the observation that in an emergency, there's no time for the doctor to wash his hands. A paramedic, if necessary, will plunge right in, disregarding the circumstances he finds himself in. Why? Because time is of the essence, and what good will it do the patient if his doctor's hands are pure but he is dead?
So too with education. Sometimes a Mashpia has the advantage of time, the ability to objectively evaluate a situation and ensure a sterile environment for his reprimand. Sometimes though, on the front line, the fire is burning, and someone has to put it out. There's no time for dilly-dallying, no opportunity to calm down. The guy has just got to go in there with guns blazing, and hopefully it'll all turn out all right.
And here was a nice anon comment:

But really, I think maybe the point of the farb. was that when a regular fellow wants to criticize he needs to imitate the doctor or surgeon. Yes, in case of emergency you would allow a doctor to jump right in and skip some precautions. But a non-professional would be wasting his time and risking the life of the victim if he jumped in not even knowing of what precautions there are to take.

So again, the point of the farb. might be: don't wait until you need to criticize and then learn how to go about doing it. Prepare yourself NOW for the eventual need to criticize (constructively), become a doctor (or an aide), so that in an emergency, you'll be qualified to open your mouth.

Or something like that.


jewpublic club said...

A little off the topic: one of the BeSHT's riddles in Kesser Shem Tov says that machloikes is the major cause for bad punishments on community, especially on matter of LSHEIM SHOMAIM, because people tend to take it on personal level and just to embarrass the person. So make sure that your intentions are not to hurt or just to make fun, but just like a doctor, who simply does what it takes, well not like a thug who sticks the knife into person for different reason. Yes there is a fine thin line that separates between surgeon's knife and thug's knife.

Altie said...

it's not really everyones place to critisize, so no, u dont necessarily have to be prepared.

good point. but sometimes its best just to keep your mouth shut altogether.

Cheerio said...

but usually not. things left unsaid end up getting said at some point, and they just hurt worse for the delay. i could continue the surgeon moshul, but i'll let all you brilliant folk figure it out yourselves.

e said...

this is sort of mentioned in hayom yom

Altie said...

e- not sort of, it is. thats the source, i believe.

Just like a guy said...

Excellent comments all.